Thursday, February 16, 2012

Valentines Day or Single Awareness Day

Valentines Day or Single Awareness Day

The above line and the thoughts that goes with the emotions that goes with them, reminds me of the old line from politics…

“Where you stand on a issue, most often depends upon where you sit.”

If I need to explain that line, you should stop reading now….

I noticed stuff all over Facebook the other day about how people either loved Valentine’s Day and what their significant other did special for them or how much they loathed the day and all it their relationship status seems to be locked on single.

You know the ones who cringe at the line from Wedding Crashers “True love is your soul's recognition of its counterpoint in another."

Emotions of sadness and disconnection was prevalent, this feeling my have been perpetuated with the Grammy’s the night before and Adele’s performance and her sweep of awards…. As one person said “Her songs just make you want to cry.”

Her big hit was written with raw emotion and was about a desperately heartbreaking end of a relationship…. (Which is the premise for most country hits except those for The Band Perry).

Many seem intent that it’s a BS holiday created by, and to market Hallmark Greeting Cards and Whitman’s Chocolate Samplers.

I thought I would share some of my observations about the season….

Many on Facebook had photos of the flowers their loved ones sent… however there might have been a lot more flowers pictured and posted on FB had 1-800-Flowers had not dropped he ball on hundreds of orders on V-Day…. Boy if you were a boyfriend in the dog house for not being romantic and trusted them to make you look less ‘Shumck-like” that would be a EPIC FAIL….(This so would have been my luck).

This month guys take your lady to see The Vow… one chick flick wont kill you… this one has a nice message and is based on a real story where love and faith in God saved a family.

One neat thing I saw, some friends who refuse to send out Christmas cards because of there busy work schedule, all the children’s school activities, her duties at home and volunteering at St Patrick’s for the holiday worship festivities, and his on his families farm, they could never get cards sent out on time….. So this family does a family Valentines Day card…. A red card with some pink hearts and a few fun pictures of the kids over the past year…quite a neat ideal… one, I am sure my single friends may long to do if they EVER find someone to have a family with…..(insert WAAAH,WAHW sound effect in here) ….The funny thing to me is they never get them sent out before Valentines Day… My friend says if she gets them out in the month of February that’s close enough….

Online news article states that over the last 5 years, the 30 days prior to Valentines Day enrollment jumps 20% over any other time of the year for online dating websites….

Did you get chocolate as a V-day gift?
Did you get YOURSELF Chocolate?
Either way it’s ok… Remember dark chocolate is considered Heart Healthy, it helps your eyesight, and it just makes you smile!

February not only lays claim to V-Day but also is the most active month for divorce per ….  Some places see a 40% spike…..The least active… October.

Other stuff from…

80% are a one sided decision, meaning 8 out of ten divorces one spouse wants to work things out.

1 out of 5 cite Facebook for evidence.

Couples in the south have the highest divorce rate and in the northeast the lowest

A couple of quotes about love that I just have to share.

A bowl of vegetables with someone you love is better than steak with someone you hate. -- Proverbs 15:17 (NLT)

"You come to love not by finding the perfect person, but by seeing an imperfect person perfectly." Sam Keen

"Love doesn't make the world go round. Love is what makes the ride worthwhile."  -- Franklin P. Jones

"When you are in love you can't fall asleep because reality is better than your dreams." -- Dr Suess

Smile at each other, smile at your wife, smile at your husband, smile at your children, smile at each other -- it doesn't matter who it is -- and that will help you to grow up in greater love for each other. -- Mother Teresa

"Whenever I get gloomy with the state of the world, I think about the arrivals gate at Heathrow Airport. General opinions starting to make out that we live in a world of hatred and greed, but I don't see that. It seems to me that love is everywhere. Often, it's not particularly dignified or newsworthy, but it's always there -- fathers and sons, mothers and daughters, husbands and wives, boyfriends, girlfriends, old friends. When the planes hit the Twin Towers, as far as I know, none of the phone calls from the people on board were messages of hate or revenge -- they were all messages of love. If you look for it, I've got a sneaking suspicion... love actually is all around."
From the Movie- -Love Actually

My favorite!!!

Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage. -- Lao Tzu

For those of you who loved V-DAY here is a video for you...

I Love Eli Young band, I Love this song, don't you dream about a love like this?
Even the most MACHO guy wants to dance to it at a wedding....

For those who don’t …. Here’s one for you….enjoy ;-)
Not sure about some of the lyrics but sometimes
 you have to take the good with the bad..

Untill next year… Gals keep dreaming about a cross between George Clooney & myself and guys keep dreaming about bumping into Kate Upton at the gas station or the coffee shop and falling madly in love…. Don’t know who she is????????? Oh you will…Trust me…..

Closing thoughts..

For those of you in relationships, the best present….

Its not a present but Presents …. Or perhaps PRESENCE….

Your TRUE Presence…. Not just at Valentines dinner or for a few minutes when someone is hoping to get a little lovin, but everyday…. In our world of email, cell phones, text msg, IM’s, Facebook, Twitter and countless other distractions its real easy to neglect your partner…. And that’s ok if you don’t care about them for the long term…. But someone out there might….. and well, they won’t be your partner long

At a church services a few weeks ago a message on marriage pointed out that most marriages that fail “Die in the daily” …. You know those average mundane tasks that its easy to divert your Presence somewhere else…

For those who are single maybe on this day (since I am always a few days late, this month) folks should start with learning to love themselves…. Before they obsess with loving someone else?

Thanks for stopping by..... 


  1. great post! we are about to celebrate 13 yrs and do not celebrate. we have our own personal opinions about that certain date being put on a calendar and what it represents. so we happily share family, fun and our commitment to each other instead of having to be reminded by a day on the calendar.